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Is This Helping?

I will only look back to smile...

 I recently made a post on my instagram in regard to going through a divorce. I wasn't glorifying it. I wasn't doing it to make other people feel sorry for me. I was posting it because I felt like some people thought I was trying to hide it. And to be honest, for a while I was. I was ashamed, embarrassed. I felt like a failure. On that day, I was ok with it. I was able to accept it for what it was. I felt like I was becoming a stronger individual, a stronger mother because of all of these negative experiences that I had gone through. I knew on that day, I wasn't going to let it define my life moving forward.

 On that day something happened. I had more than 10 people, some of them close friends, some of them just acquaintances, reach out to me and tell me that they were going through the same thing. They saw my post a being brave and vulnerable. I was told it was inspiring. This caught me off guard. The social stigma of someone going through a divorce is something that people tend to shy away from, hide. I didn't want to do that. My simple post, was this helping people? I want to say that it was.

 I've decided to start writing about my experiences, my very personal experiences. These are my thoughts and my feelings. These are my new endeavors. This is me, adjusting to becoming a single mom. Writing has always helped me as an individual. A form of therapy for me. I want to be vulnerable. I want to put my experiences out there, as personal as they may be, because it may help someone else who is going through a similar situation.

 My original instagram post:  HERE

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